I will be starting a new blog that deals with, follows me and my kids weekly adventures, and might help some parents along the way realize that maybe their life is actually pretty normal! I have done blogs in the past as a way to release, vent, and keep my sanity.....now though, I am going to show the lighter side of things, keeping it simple and having a few laughs along the way. Maybe I'll get some followers, maybe not. Maybe I will get some people who can relate to my situation or maybe I will be able to show a few people that they aren't as alone in all this as they might have thought they were. Either way, I'm going to write so I hope that someone will read it!
So since this is the first blog I guess I need to give a little back story here.......so where do I start? I will start last July 18th because to me, that is when the dramatic life changing event took place. I was sitting in a court room eagerly listening to a judge determine how my life was going to go. I know what you're already thinking and no, it wasn't criminal court. This was divorce court. It had been about 13 months after I separated from my wife and we were in a custody battle for the kids. I won't get into the whats and why and all that but the judge was about to make her decision. As she addressed the courtroom my heart began to beat quickly and all the stress, saddness, fright, and every other possible emotion was meeting in my head all at the same time. She went through all the stuff that I couldn't care less about: who got the house, who got this, blah blah blah. I was listening yet I wasn't because I just wanted her to get to the kids. And she saved it for last of course. I sat there, in disbelief I wasn't sure how to emotionally act. I waited so long for the decision and then it was spoken by the only person whose opinion mattered to me. Complete control of the minor children never sounded so good. At that point, the relief hit me like a ton of bricks and it felt so good even though I couldn't believe that it was over. Talk about feeling like dancing and yelling joyfully at the top of your lungs. Of course that wasn't the last time I stepped into the courtroom because there was a petition to reconsider which was denied, and as if that wasn't good enough, our custody case was taken by my ex wife to the next higher court in Illinois because she claimed the judge abused her power in awarding me custody. After thousands of dollars spent in divorce court I got to again spend thousands of dollars all because she didn't agree with the decision that was made. Anyone who knows the facts of the case, the stories of mental and emotional abuse that my kids have been put through all agreed that the kids were where they belonged and that no court would change that based on the facts. At the end of March I got the phone call from my lawyer telling me that the court upheld the original ruling. So for now, court is over. I say for now because their mom said she intends to fight it again every chance she gets. To that I say bring it on because the law states that custody will not change unless there is a major issue of abuse or if the kids are not being taken care of. That will never happen.
So at the beginning of August 2012 my kids came to live with me for about 26 days out of the month. We moved into a nice townhouse, where they each have their own bedrooms with huge walk in closets (while I get the unfinished basement!). They love it here, they are doing awesome in school, we have our routine down, life is good for the most part. I take so much pride in being their dad and it is my most important job. We are not the typical family by any means. My son Kobe is autistic which makes many days quite the adventure. There will be many future posts I'm sure sharing those adventures. It is going to be a great summer, many adventures, and so much to share. I hope you all enjoy this blog and feel free to comment whenever you like......feedback is always welcome : )
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